Paths

I must admit I quite enjoy rabbit trails. These can be great fun and creative or an interesting ‘what if’, but they are or can be dangerous. I suspect that this is part of the charm. Fortunately, I have learned to be keenly aware of my path and not veer to far off of it (never out of sight). An excursion (into a rabbit trail) is, or can be, a different way of considering an issue, problem, study, etc. But it can lead to a rabbit trail of a rabbit trail to the point that the main path is completely out of view and lost.

Do you feel that you are on the path the Lord wants for you? If so... how do you know? And if not... do you want to get back on the path - if so, you'll need to honestly consider how and why you got off the path. The Lord said

  “Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad and easy to travel is the path that leads the way to destruction and eternal loss, and there are many who enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow and difficult to travel is the path that leads the way to [everlasting] life, and there are few who find it." [Matthew 7:13-14]

This gives us a gigantic clue. Do we, right now feel, 1. a bit put upon, nothing seems to be going 'right' and you feel somewhat stuck in a bramble patch or 

2. life is smooth and easy, you aren't really being asked to do or be anything in particular. If 2 then you need to take another look at what's happening around you and what you are doing. Granted there are seasons of rest, but that's different. If, on the other hand, you feel like #1. Reassess. Because this may be a time of training, of testing. But never forget these 2 kinds of paths - and know yours.

Now... how can we judge if it's a season or we got off of our path? There are suggestions found in Matthew 7:

 

   “Beware of the false prophets, [teachers] who come to you dressed as sheep [appearing gentle and innocent], but inwardly are ravenous wolves. By their fruit you will recognize them [that is, by their contrived doctrine and self-focus]. Do people pick grapes from thorn bushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every healthy tree bears good fruit, but the unhealthy tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit." [v. 15-18] 

Fruit bearing is never 'by accident' it comes from the inner parts of us. Look at Ephesians 3:16, Psalm 15:6, Proverbs 20:27, and 2 Corinthians 4:16. These are only a few of the scriptures that talk about the inner man from which our behavior and words stem. We never truly are accidental in our words... at least that's my opinion. Fruit is the best 'tool' in our assessment arsenal. To be oblivious is harmful to all. 

When it talks about looking at the fruit that is visible... don't ignore your own. It also tells you what you are demonstrating. If you are on your path you will have good fruit to share. And a word of correction is not construed as 'bad' fruit. It may be incorrect or not complete but it always tells us what others are seeing and that's invaluable.

Paths. Rabbit or not give us understandings and growth. Rabbit is a short time, short distance 'what if'. But don't be led by what if's - they can be dangerous to your health. Look around. Is where you are your path? If not... do you know how to find yours?

Did the Bible REALLY say that...

    "You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth [punishment that fits the offense].’ But I say to you, do not resist an evil person [who insults you or violates your rights]; but whoever slaps you on the right cheek, turn the other toward him also [simply ignore insignificant insults or trivial losses and do not bother to retaliate—maintain your dignity, your self-respect, your poise]."  [Matthew 5:38-39]

I have always had problems with these 2 verses. I'm not one that avoids conflicts, disagreements though physical violence is not my style. But a 'slap on the cheek' is always a deliberate act, even when it's a 'reaction'. Then again, it really isn't the physical slaps that hurt it's the personal words that can cut deeper. However, thank heavens for the Amplified Bible, because it's those words in ( ) that can give us a greater understanding, and this one also gives context. 

There are some major points for me and the first is: 'simply ignore insignificant insults or trivial losses and do not bother to retaliate'. I had a 'friend' who once said to me - 'you're no fun 'cause you don't respond. At the time I had no idea and it wasn't any brilliance on my part to not respond - for once (because that wasn't typical behavior on my part) I obviously was thinking on other 'things'.
But while we typically look at silence as assent, never assume. There really is strength in intentional silence because it always takes 2 to 'fight'. 

I've also discovered that the non response by me that is accompanied by just standing there, not cowering but maintaining my dignity, can have a great affect.

The, 'maintain your dignity, your self-respect, your poise' speaks volumes. And that was a very loud one. But to answer the Title's initial question - the answer is, 'Yes'.  But we've not read the context nor how the words are defined. Once you do delve a bit below the surface, then correct response can emerge.

Now the question becomes: can, will you comply? Will you depart the scene with your integrity in tact? Integrity is defined by behavior... will you stop long enough to see what your response should be? These verses and their associate behavior are saying far more than we initially realize. It doesn't mean 'fight', it doesn't mean 'flight', there are many opportunities to respond without incurring a negative reaction from the 'perpetrator'. You aren't responsible for their reactions but you most certainly are for yours. 

Flee and Come Close

    "7 So submit to [the authority of] God. Resist the devil [stand firm against him] and he will flee from you. 8 Come close to God [with a contrite heart] and He will come close to you."  [James 4: 7-8a] 
Resist doesn't automatically mean you come close. But duly note that both require YOU to 'do it'. 

Back in the previous century a comedian (Flip Wilson) use to have a scenario in which the punch line was, '... the devil made me do it.' Wrong. The devil does NOT have the power to 'make' you do anything. He'd like to, but the only thing he can do is tempt and seduce. But those 2 are powerful. Ultimately it is ALWAYS our decision to do or not do something. This holds for the Lord as well as the devil. God gave His creation - free will.

[[As a 'quick' aside - let me share a bit on what I mean when I use those words. 

    I think the primary need on our part is to ACCEPT the responsibility for the consequences/ramifications from one’s own actions and words or the lack thereof. You can’t expect to have free will and not realize what responsibilities comes

with that gift! I suspect we rush to accept the gift The Father gives us and try and have a blind eye when it comes to our responsibilities. 

The answer to accepting our responsibility is quite simple. Part of it rests in a prayer in Psalms that we all need to face our day:

   "Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a right and steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me away from Your presence And do not take Your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of Your salvation And sustain me with a willing spirit." [Psalms 51:10-12]

With those characteristics IN us, we can provide a strong defense.]]

The devil is not about to flee based on our own 'authority'. He does however quake when we use the same defense Jesus used when the devil tried to tempt Him - 'It Is Written'. You do remember that part of our armor is our sword... and the sword represents the Word of God. That is a very powerful weapon and the devil knows this. I wonder why we tend to not remember? Point being is that, not in our own authority but in Him who saved us, never leaves us, and is ready to equip us to be (more than) conquerors [Romans 8:37], we really can do all things [Philippians 4:13]. 

But resisting isn't the end... we need to do what James instructed: come close to God and He will come close to us.

Which are you?

Are you the son who when asked by his Father to do something says ‘no’. Or the son who readily agrees to do what is asked? Now the rest of the story… the first son, for whatever his reason, repents and does what his Father asks. The second son does not (never intended to?). How surprised is the Father by at the results? More important, which is you?

Stop for a moment and honestly assess the number of times the Lord's asked you to do something - what kind of responder are you? This really isn't a comfortable question to answer. While we might try and cling to the '...I wasn't certain that He meant me, it could simply be giving me information" - does that sound as lame to you as it does to me. And how many times have we used that or a variation of it? For me... far more than I'm willing to acknowledge. But... you know what!? I'm trying very hard not to shift the 'blame' or seek a scapegoat for my behavior. I'm getting quite fast at apologizing (sincerely, not the throw away type). Part of my 'speed' is so that the danglies (my word for unresolved and to be resolved words and/or behavior) are not clogging my way.

Quite honestly, I'm trying to not be quick to say 'yes Lord' but not following through. Now a reallllllly difficult question - how many times have you said - not me, not ready, or whatever 'reason' you have for not accepting the opportunity, the assignment offered? I am not going to get sidetracked by which is worse: saying yes and not doing (fill in the blank) or saying 'no', I'm not ready. 

But let's look at the 'not ready'. Do you honestly believe the Lord would ask you to do something you couldn't do? Did He ever say that you'd be doing it alone? Do you know why you don't feel prepared? Do you know what you need in order to accept the assignment? First... if you think the Lord would ask you to do something you could never do - that isn't the Person I know. He never sets us up for failure. Yes, He tests, but the tests are more for us to know what we don't know so we can prepare. And who said you had to do it all by yourself?!!! My experience is that when faced with these kinds of situations, I turn to the Lord and say - 

   "Be my Senior Partner please and help to learn what I need. Not that I'm

    seeking to be a Senior Partner but I need to learn what the Junior Partner

    does." 

It took me some time, but I learned that the song was alllll wrong! I really don't want to do it - my way. I've learned that it is delightful sharing.

The other part of 'not ready' is - what are you doing to be ready? Are you studying, and growing, do you feel you are more equipped today than you were a week ago? Have you asked what you need to learn? Before you think me harsh about all the questions - not intentionally. I've walked that path - really didn't need to, but I did. 

By now you've probably noticed that my focus has not really been on the 'which are you' but on you who say - yes but don't do. We really are talking about picking up our cross and carrying it, following after the Lord. One source said:

   "Following the Lord, particularly Jesus Christ in Christian belief, involves a commitment to align one's life with His teachings and example, seeking His guidance and submitting to His authority. It includes living out His values, transforming one's priorities and actions, and seeking a deeper relationship with God."

Paul said it best:

   "Not that I have already obtained it [this goal of being Christlike] or have already been made perfect, but I actively press on so that I may take hold of that [perfection] for which Christ Jesus took hold of me and made me His own. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider that I have made it my own yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the [heavenly] prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus." [Philippians 3:12-14]

That's following. And I believe that when you say 'yes' to the Lord but quickly follow it by acknowledging your need for Him to be part of the fulfillment of the yes that victory will be yours and growth will be the testament of your learning.

When you can’t find happy

Been there? I have … more than once and I do not like that place. Even worse - I don’t like me when I’m there. It’s a place in which I can’t find peace and worse - joy. It’s not depression, it’s not dissatisfaction but the depth is so deep that you can’t see the top of the ‘hole, pit’ you somehow are in. You really aren't comfortable in your own skin. You are restless, distracted, wandering, and a few other negative emotions that don't give hope.

Life seems to be a series of highs and lows or as I refer to them as - seasons of life. I seriously doubt anyone can sustain these two polar opposites for long periods of time. It’s the middle ground that needs to be cultivated because that’s where we spend the majority of our time. Part of my question is - do we recognize these times, seasons or is only on retrospect? Perhaps it's as we enter these times that we suddenly realize that we've somehow wandered off our path.

A little hint - don't go looking for happy... you rarely find 'happy' by looking for it. I think 'happy' is illusive, transitory, surface. I've been around some people who appear to be able to turn on a dime from 'miserable' to happy (and vice versa). Which leads me to think there isn't much depth to 'happy'. One secular source says:

   "In the Bible, happiness (often translated from the Greek word "μακαρισμος" or "μακαριο") is not just about fleeting emotions, but a deeper, more profound state of well-being and joy that comes from a relationship with God. It's a contentment that is not dependent on circumstances, but rooted in faith and a sense of God's favor."

In other words, they are defining happiness by joy.  And 'joy' is a much deeper state. 
https://restorativecc.com/ provides a chart that compares happiness and joy.

         Happiness                                                 Joy

Based on circumstances                         Despite circumstances

Us focused                                         Kingdom focused

In reaction to accomplishments,                  From a place of gratitude, praise and

   achievement, and material gain                     confidence 

Is a feeling (remember feelings are fleeting) State of being

Looking to earthly things                          Viewing from a heavenly perspective

Hope in “it”  (it being the thing you think       Full of hope

  will bring you happiness)

When I first looked at the 'definitions' this company developed to explain the differences, I saw the main reason almost immediately. It really is based in who your source is. Happiness is more of a object based state while joy has it's source in a Christian mindset of relationship with the Lord and His promises.

If you look for joy... you will find it  One source explains joy as:

   "The biblical definition of joy says that joy is a feeling of good pleasure and happiness that is dependent on who Jesus is rather than on who we are or what is happening around us. Joy comes from the Holy Spirit, abiding in God's presence and from hope in His word."

That certainly is more substantial and long lasting.

Do all and More

Are you a ‘Do all things’ and ‘More than a conqueror’ Christian?  

   “I can do all things [which He has called me to do] through Him who strengthens and empowers me [to fulfill His purpose—I am self-sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency; I am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him who infuses me with inner strength and confident peace.]”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4‬:‭13‬ ‭AMP

   “Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors and gain an overwhelming victory through Him who loved us [so much that He died for us].” 

Romans‬ ‭8‬:‭37‬ ‭AMP‬‬

Yes, I am linking 2 scriptures - do you see the words? Would you let them define who you are - how the Lord sees you? Do you see the source in both scriptures and let it be the foundation for your words and actions? Do these 2 scriptures paint a picture for you?

Many times a 'can't' slips into our spoken words. But are you confident that your 'can't' is accurate? You have the Lord working in you when you accepted Him as your Lord - right? And He really CAN do all things - right? Then if He is calling you to it....... He is/has already equipped you for it - yes? If our 'no' is based on our perception of who we are then perhaps you could be right. But......... if He IS your Lord, if He is who He says He is and if He has come to make a home in you [John 14:23]... doesn't that make you a 'more than' and a 'can do'? Certainly, you can't be arguing with scripture??????

I could provide you with other confirming scriptures, but I think the point's made. We really can't be 'can'ts' and all and more at the same time. Don't be dismayed, I think most of us have bought the lie satan sends us about who we are, even after we have been born again. Sometimes I don't think we understand that when we have accepted Jesus' Lordship that that's when the devil gets really riled and tries to throw every possible doubt our way. Remember... simply because he throws it doesn't mean we have to catch it.  

Where... a ? or !

 So do you know where you are? What season are you in? Where do you want to be? Are you willing to pay the cost of getting there? and/or Not getting there? I suspect, in some respect, I'm asking you what you are doing with your free will. Saying you don't have it is completely untrue - you do! Not using it is using it. The Father chose to make His ultimate creation, man, have the ability to make his own decisions. But this is not in a vacuum - we have all the directions, understandings available to us to make Good decisions - it's called, The Bible. All your questions are answered there.

And notice I did not say you will always understand... or even like the answers. Not the point - the answers are there and we have the free will to accept it or not. But remember, not accepting it comes with more consequences than following it. I also discovered that the Lord never gets upset with all my 'why's'. He always patiently explains through His word. Then again, I don't approach my why's with a rebellious spirit - my intent is to understand. Interestingly enough when I get to that point of accepting or rejecting - liking isn't one of the options. I may not like it... but will I follow it? 

Sometimes the problem seems to be that we don't always like the decisions we make. Or maybe we feel rushed (by whom?) to make a decision we aren't confident in? Perhaps it's a case of accepting the lesser of evils? When we begin heading in the direction of a decision, do we also begin to develop our scapegoat in case things don't go positively?

Remember too that we have different seasons. Sometimes we are in a highly active time in which time just flies by. Other times we seem to be in a learning time. Do we recognize this and take advantage of the opportunity to learn, to grow? Still other times appear to be testing times. As uncomfortable as those times are - do we choose to learn through them? My belief (based in scripture - James 1L13) that the Lord will never tempt me. Test, on the other hand - absolutely. 

Why tests? Because that tells us what it is we do know and understand and what we still need to know. Tests are as much for us, making certain that we are learning and incorporating into our MO what we learn and know AND still need to learn. So back to the initial question. Do you know WHERE you are and is it a ! or a ?, and what will You do about it?

Only… Just

Those 2 words, only and just, are NOT descriptions! Nor should they be attributed to You or you attribute them to another person. What a gigantic put down. The problem, of course, is the definitions of those 2 words. Then again, many of our communication problems occurs because we assume we all define words in the same way... and we don't always.

I've discovered, when I've heard either of those 2 words attributed whether to me, someone or something else that the person speaking them might not (benefit of a huge doubt) realize what they are implying. Personally, I don't believe these two condescending words should ever be used with/about people. I certainly don't want to be described or seen as a 'just' or an 'only'. Not new behavior. I remember... a long time ago when I was probably 6 or 7 an 'adult' speaking to someone, that children were 'just'... I also remember saying that I may be many things but a 'just' was not one of them. (Only ever so slightly precocious.)

It wasn't until years later that I realized it was a put down (or a put in one's place) comment. It was meant to be condescending. It there is any behavior that immediately strikes a reaction in me is when someone is being patronizing. Part of my intense dislike is probably based in how I was raised. There's even a scripture that talks about this. We should never ascribe a certain elevated prestige that is not ours to 'proclaim'. And, scripture also tells us that we shouldn't esteem ourselves better and that God never shows partiality.  

If you doubt my scriptural reference, let me quote one source:

   "Several Bible verses speak to God lifting us up. James 4:10 states, "Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up." 1 Peter 5:6-7 encourages, "Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that He may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." Additionally, Psalm 3:3 says, "But You, O Lord, are a shield for me, My glory and the One who lifts up my head."

John 12:43 says: "..for they loved the approval of men more than the approval of God." Now these scriptures put a period to self-esteem and simultaneously show us Who can grant and lift us up. 

If you think I just provided the argument for only and just - no. Look at the source - it's speaking to man about man and indicating Who should be the source. No one should put another person down for any reason - that's not your role or responsibility. You also need not follow them. 

Final thought. You really CAN become an 'only' or a 'just' - but that's your choice. Never choose this... there's no benefit.

I never met a Question I didn’t like

… the answer, on the other hand is a whole different matter. 

One suggestion I have about questions though is - never ask a question if you aren’t prepared to ‘hear’ the response. If all you want is affirmation or applause, you could be sadly mistaken.

A question is never a statement that you haven't thought about the subject, it suggests that you have and want to see if your understanding is met by another's or if there will be iron sharpening iron or something entirely different. It does indicate that though you may have at least a beginning understanding - you are seeking a greater depth. A question is also never a tease to gain others to your point of view.

One source says:

   "In the Gospels Jesus asks many more questions than he answers. To be precise, Jesus asks 307 questions. He is asked 183 of which he only answers 3. Asking questions was central to Jesus' life and teachings."

Reason for questions?

   "While God asks questions for many reasons, one of the broader patterns we see displayed in Jesus's questions is the dual need of noticing and confessing. Jesus always asks questions for our sake. And he's always bringing us to confess his Lordship and notice our need."

Which also affirms my personal reason that I ask so many questions - I want the person I'm talking with to discover and develop their own answers. In listening to the 'answer' to the question you can make a great many discoveries such as: does the speaker listen to what they are saying, how much the speaker has previously thought about the underlying premise, the level of confidence the speaker has in their opinion, how open they are to differences in understanding. 

The answer to those observations will give the 'listener' a great deal of information about how to discuss the topic with the speaker. When there is a 'meeting of conditions' when both agree on format, this can result in understanding, confirmation or change, and a new level of confidence in that you've discovered the 'answer' about the focus of the discussion.

Questions, in my world, are never idle they are paths to truth when your source is the Bible. God is never 'afraid' or angry with our questions - I think they are proofs of our intentions. If you are a person who wants to learn, wants to discover then one of the best ways is to ask questions. The paths of discovery of the answer is rarely a one and done. Typically one answered question leads to a new one. 

Enjoy the journey!!!

The choice is our how

    "... Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you." [Romans 12:1-2, MSG]

If you look at that you can translate that into - '...be not conformed to the world (of) but be transformed by the word (in)' - at least that's one interpretation. Another way of looking at this is - if we aren't 'in' the world then we have little way to transform, bring a different perspective. But if all we are is 'of' then where's our witness? What are we providing as an alternative for others?

Reading further in Romans 12 it says:

   "And do not be conformed to this world [any longer with its superficial values and customs], but be transformed and progressively changed [as you mature spiritually] by the renewing of your mind [focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His plan and purpose for you].    

                ...

I say to everyone of you not to think more highly of himself [and of his importance and ability] than he ought to think; but to think so as to have sound judgment, as God has apportioned to each a degree of faith [and a purpose designed for service]." [v 2-3]

Personally, I can't think of a better description and definition of the difference (and basis of personal judgment) between being IN and OF  the world. There are clues of do's and don't's populating the first 8 verses of Romans 12. Here are some more standards in which to judge yourself.

  "For just as in one [physical] body we have many parts, and these parts do not all have the same function or special use, so we, who are many, are [nevertheless just] one body in Christ, and individually [we are] parts one of another [mutually dependent on each other].  Since we have gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, each of us is to use them accordingly: if [someone has the gift of] prophecy, [let him speak a new message from God to His people] in proportion to the faith possessed; if service, in the act of serving; or he who teaches, in the act of teaching; or he who encourages, in the act of encouragement; he who gives, with generosity; he who leads, with diligence; he who shows mercy [in caring for others], with cheerfulness.' [v. 4-8]

Never say you have no way of determining if you are in or of. This outlines it perfectly. And, if you want further support of these scriptures, turn to 1 Corinthians 12 - the complete chapter, but especially verses 12-31. 

The choice is always our 'how' which comes after we choose if we will act 'in' or 'of'.

Power and Passion

In prayer. Perhaps I should say - in your praying.? Remember:

   "... pray for one another, that you may be healed and restored. The heartfelt and persistent prayer of a righteous man (believer) can accomplish much [when put into action and made effective by God—it is dynamic and can have tremendous power]." [James 5:16]

Would you classify you as a persistent and righteous pray-er? Persistence is really an act of faith. It's not just requesting prayer results that you are focusing on but have yet to come to fruition. Do you ever use praise as your act of prayer when you haven't seen the hoped for results? How about understanding? Maybe acceptance?  Are you following the instructions in Hebrews (4:12. 16}? Confidence is never spoken in demanding terms, so what is your attitude when asking?

So, is your praying full of power? Of passion? Perhaps a definition would be in order. I would suspect that if there is no passion it’s unlikely that there’s much power. Harsh? Perhaps… but that doesn’t make it inaccurate. Power speaks confidence. Passion speaks personal involvement. Both are needed in prayer and without them, what does your praying look like?

When I use the word 'power' I'm not using it in terms of over other people. You can legitimately utilize influence, competence as two examples of the proper use of power. However, manipulation and threats do NOT apply. And exactly Who are you attempting to use that power over when the context is prayer?

Another component is how you view the various manifestations of God that He uses to help us understand Who He is and What He does and How He does it? Example: healing. Do remember that healing is more than physical, though that's part. When we think about healing I think we should think spirit, soul, and body. And look to the result - restored. 

Through prayer we can tap into all that is in the Father's will and can act with assurance because He's with us and helps us. Prayer is one of our communication tools that makes satan furious because we have the blessing and honor to talk with God - something satan never wanted. Why would we give up one of our greatest assets? 

As we pray, believing, our own power is increased against the work of the devil. Remember our weapons of warfare are not carnal. Actually I think the devil would want to deceive us in believing our warfare is carnal because then he can attempt to mislead us, lie, steal... and kill. Killing is more than just death of the body... it's the killing of our spirit that's the devil's target and he uses our soul to target our spirit. 

As long as we stay connected with the source - God in all His manifestations and attributes. When we come expecting, come confidently we do tap into this source. We are so much more than we realize and the devil spends a great deal of his time and energy directed at separating us from the loving Father. 

When you come confidently knowing, your power and passion is increased to be effective, to become the Ambassador to the world we live in. 

 

Who is the God You know?

I was asked to present a devotional the middle of next week, so I thought I'd share it with you. 

Who is the God You know? How do you relate to the Person? Do you have Him a box? Do you bring Him out only in times pf crisis? Do you only bring requests? How do you see Him interacting with you? Perhaps you see Him as so majestic that He is untouchable; and thus unreachable? Is He not to be bothered? Who is the God you know?

Since He is changeless is He who you discovered when you accepted Him as 

your Lord… and remained there? Have you taken the time to discover and know 

a changeless Creator? Do you know the God that you think you know? He is 

unchanging but He's also the Creator. Do you think He's stopped creating?

Has His Word led you into new understandings and appreciation? Do you see 

Him as the Old Testament God who seems vengeful against His Creation? Or 

is He only the New Testament God who has taken so much time and effort to 

help?

Yes, a whole lot of questions... but they aren't idle ones. The Father is vibrant, 

alive, involved never aloof. If He was removed from us by choice then He would 

go against His own word that tells us He will never leave us for forsake us. Also, 

would He have willingly had His own son killed for our sins? Yes they both had to 

agree, but the point is - that was the plan from the beginning. Does that give you any sense of how far He went to save you? Does it begin to define how He loves you? Don't you want to know Him more?

There's no way you can ever 'repay' the Father - and He doesn't expect you to. But since we are the clay to Him being the Potter, are we constantly jumping off the table? Why is it we're always trying to be the center of attention when in fact when it comes to the Creator of the Universe - we are? It's a matter of perspective. Why, do you think, that the Creator God places such significance on you? Part of it relates that He wants you to know Him. Know Him from His Word, know Him from your experience.

God IS God, and not only that but He's a Triune God [Father, Son, Holy Spirit]. He is Omni, He is Creator. But never stop there. Who is He in relationship with you? Is He Jehovah Jireh - your Provider, Jehovah Rapha - your Healer, Jehovah Tsidkenu - your righteousness. And that begins the discovery of Who He is, What He does, How He does it. The wonderful reality is that He will help you discover all that.

Got Questions says:

   "Only what God has chosen to reveal of Himself can be known. One of God’s attributes or qualities is “light,” meaning that He is self-revealing in information of Himself. The fact that God has revealed knowledge of Himself should not be neglected. Creation, the Bible, and the Word made flesh (Jesus Christ) will help us to know what God is like.

Let’s start by understanding that God is our Creator and that we are a part of His creation and are created in His image. Man is above the rest of creation and was given dominion over it. Creation is marred by the fall but still offers a glimpse of God’s works. By considering creation’s vastness, complexity, beauty, and order, we can have a sense of the awesomeness of God.

If you are interested in pursuing this more, I recommend you go to:

 https://www.gotquestions.org/content_God_nature.html

That can begin or reignite your own passion about the God you can know.

Sooooooo????

I checked. I have over 2,000 blog posts. 2,000. Perhaps not much according to those with a great deal more... maybe slightly impressive to those who are just beginning their blogging journey. One bit of advice ... or 2. Make whatever you are doing - yours. Don't listen to critics, naysayers, advice givers or any of that ilk. Once you are 'established' then you can listen. Some of the advice is really excellent, some is trash and can easily be discarded. Some will be a kind of 'hmmm' some might send you on a rabbit trail. But first and foremost your blog has to be YOU.

Quite honestly, I do enjoy creating blog posts. When I realized that I didn't have to produce a blog every x number of days I experienced a great sense of freedom. I could now write when I wanted to say something rather than feeling 'forced'. So that's my pattern now. I also have a variety of 'inspirational' sources to tap into. I find that sometimes my posts are basically tongue-in-cheek (great fun when this is recognized), some I feel have more 'worth' because it's seems to be a message that the Lord is teaching me (presumptuous - don't think so) - I especially enjoy sharing (in a iron sharpening iron sense - Isaiah) my discoveries, hoping for a dialogue to ensue. Rarely.

I didn't start out a blogger - have to credit my nephew on his suggestion. And when it came to journaling, I can't count the number of times I started doing that, which typically lasted about 2 weeks. Rob's suggestion that I write some of these thoughts (good, bad, indifferent, boring, challenging, etc.) and share them in the format of a blog. After that came a good friend, Todd, who thought I should turn them into books. I did. I then discovered I had absolutely no understanding about 'marketing'. There are 17 books languishing for want of readers. Ah well.

Bottom line, point: if you are reading this and have gotten this far... do you like to put your thoughts 'out there' for others to react to? If you have the gift of teaching, I think the answer is - yes. Blogging will challenge you on everything you think you believe and why. Remember - a challenge only becomes a threat when you view it as 'personal'. Don't go there. Let the challenge reinforce what you believe or cause you to rethink or refine. Never stop yourself from growing.

If your gifting is not teaching - you still have a voice and I always believe a voice should be heard... just not the unabridged yelling or a closed mind. A yelling voice always says to me that the 'speaker' may not really understand what they are saying ... nor why. Never forget the admonition of 'come, let us reason together' [Isaiah 1:18 taken slightly out of context]. Voices should always have an ear. And, NEVER say you have nothing to say - we all have a reaction, something to add to the conversation. Never, never silence your voice. If you have no listeners... then blog.

help?.

I have a question… one that I’ve mulled over countless times, but still without an answer. The question: why do so many of us have difficulty asking others to stand with us in prayer about something or someone? Do we see asking for someone(s) help sound like we aren’t trusting a loving Father and we don’t ever want to seem to be doing that! Is asking sound like doubting? If you believe that then you are forgetting that Jesus took His top 3 disciples when He went to pray before His betrayal! 

Perhaps the problem/issue doesn’t seem perilous enough to warrant ‘help’? And where does the Word say that your need has to be life threatening before it is 'legitimate' to ask? OK then maybe the problem is that you don’t know who you can trust to be discreet and who will actually stand with you? Also there is the issue of vulnerability, ours. 

You do realize that reaching out places your own expression of you at a disadvantage when you need help when you have appeared to 'have it all together' or you are mature enough not to need others? Do you realize that when you attempt to express either of those figments of imagination that we limit ourselves but also limit a blessing on someone else who will stand with you? 

An open outstretched seeking could be misconstrued. But You do realize that the person who takes hold of your hand is also vulnerable - yes!? Because when they do take your hand they are now responsible to stand with you - this is definitely a 2-edged sword. Committing to stand with another is not a rushed act because if you haven't discovered what you are standing with them on, it may not be what you thought. Never agree lightly and always find out what the other person is seeking in their asking - not the why.

Obviously my belief lies more in the category of your personal experiences in asking for help. Because - we are told to bear one another’s burdens. I also think that we all are novices when it come to prayer. Somehow, if we’re Christians, praying comes through some form of osmosis and we automatically are prayer warriors. Not!

When you accepted Jesus as your Lord and were born again - did anyone teach you about prayer? I think the answer is nearly unanimous in being - no. Look to the Word - what does it say about prayer? And remember that the disciples came to Jesus asking Him to teach them how to pray. Did, do you? I believe prayer has 2 major ‘benefits’: relationship and learning more about that the weapons of our warfare against the devil. Do you believe, have experienced the weapon of prayer? This is a weapon against our enemy - not other people. 

If prayer wasn't important then why would the apostles ask Jesus to teach them to pray? (You did see the word 'teach'?) Why would the Lord say: 

   "Take this most seriously: A yes on earth is yes in heaven; a no on earth is no in heaven. What you say to one another is eternal. I mean this. When two of you get together on anything at all on earth and make a prayer of it, my Father in heaven goes into action. And when two or three of you are together because of me, you can be sure that I’ll be there.” [Matthew 18:18-20, MSG]

Where 2 or 3 are gathered and in agreement... see the power? Can you get answers when you pray alone - absolutely. But there are times when we really need the help of a brother or sister in the Lord. I would argue that ALL of us needs at least 1 prayer partner that we trust and can turn to so that we double the power of the prayer. Never forget Deuteronomy 32:30. 

It’s a matter of degree

Let’s admit it - we all are people pleasers to some degree. Is that so bad? It can be… depending on the degree. I believe that the degree is dependent on our belonging need, unmet need, and how/if/we value our belonging. Where is your comfort level (and we all have different points at which we are 'comfortable'.

Sooo... what constitutes a met need in this area? Do you even know? Should you care is a given 'yes' answer. If you are the type that agrees with whomever you last spoke to then you are at one end of the continuum. At the other end is the person that plunges on ahead without any regard to the consequences that could occur to others. Quite honestly, there's a wide tightrope of considerable length in between. So where do you fall? Do you care? 

On one hand 'people pleasers' really get a bad rap because they are seen as wishy washy. They are seen as trying to be all things to all people - and that's not just a flawed philosophy, it's totally impossible to sustain. But is that really the definition of a people pleaser? Is there no saving grace to this position? OK, maybe that last sentence was a bit overboard, but sometimes one has to do this in order to get others' attention.

Bottom line is that I do think we all are people pleasers to some degree. Most of us want the best for that other person, even when it's not reciprocated. If you're a Christian, we're kinda meant to be this was. However, I've always seen a slight caveat.

   "But let your statement be, ‘Yes, yes’ or ‘No, no’ [a firm yes or no]; anything more than that comes from the evil one."  [Matthew 5:37]

This unmistakably means - you don't say 'yes' to one person and then to the next person you speak with on the same subject, you say 'no'. Doing this reinforces the realization by others that you are untrustworthy, because your reputation will precede you when you are seen in this light. I tend to think these people who act this way are trying to avoid conflict at any cost - even of their own reputation. Would you ask the opinion of such a person because you will never know their true thinking and acting? As a support they linger at the very back of the group so they don't have to acknowledge anything. But this is the extreme.

If you want to consider a different definition then look to scripture as to how we are to treat others. There are many verses speaking to this, I'm going to share 4:

   "Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit [through factional motives, or strife], but with [an attitude of] humility [being neither arrogant nor self-righteous], regard others as more important than yourselves. Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others."  [Philippians 2:3-4]

   " Treat others the same way you want them to treat you."  [Luke 6:31, 

Matthew 7:12]

   "Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor [perpetual animosity, resentment, strife, fault-finding] and slander be put away from you, along with every kind of malice [all spitefulness, verbal abuse, malevolence]. Be kind and helpful to one another, tender-hearted [compassionate, understanding], forgiving one another [readily and freely], just as God in Christ also forgave you."

[Ephesians 4:31-32]

You could possibly make an argument or redefinition of the first 3, but this last one puts a period.

   "I am giving you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, so you too are to love one another."  [John 13:34]

When we try to follow Jesus' command we really are fulfilling those first 3 scriptures. This can probably be looked at as the pinnacle of direction and definition of being a 'people pleaser'. 

Create and Renew

   "Hide Your face from my sins And blot out all my iniquities. Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a right and steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me away from Your presence And do not take Your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of Your salvation And sustain me with a willing spirit."  [Psalms 51: 9-12]

Sometimes we take the kernel out without realizing the significance of the verses pre and post the kernel. I chose only 1 before and 2 after the verse 10 but see how it expands the thought. Hide and blot begin the plea. We know that God knows when we have transgressed His law and purposes. He knew it before (?) or at least during our act. It's impossible to hide what we did/said or didn't do/say. So we come to ask that He hide and blot out our sins and iniquities. As a Christian I rely heavily on 1 John 1:9. But again... look at the verses before the answer in verse 9.

   " If we say that we have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness [of sin], we lie and do not practice the truth; but if we [really] walk in the Light [that is, live each and every day in conformity with the precepts of God], as He Himself is in the Light, we have [true, unbroken] fellowship with one another [He with us, and we with Him], and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin [by erasing the stain of sin, keeping us cleansed from sin in all its forms and manifestations]. If we say we have no sin [refusing to admit that we are sinners], we delude ourselves and the truth is not in us. [His word does not live in our hearts.] If we [freely] admit that we have sinned and confess our sins, He is faithful and just [true to His own nature and promises], and will forgive our sins and cleanse us continually from all unrighteousness [our wrongdoing, everything not in conformity with His will and purpose]. If we say that we have not sinned [refusing to admit acts of sin], we make Him [out to be] a liar [by contradicting Him] and His word is not in us." [1 John 1:6 -10]

It's like the verses book end. Verses 6-8, punctuated by 10 tell us probably what we already know. But 9 reveals what we receive when we act according to His principles. I doubt seriously that He ever expects perfection out of us, I don't believe He is surprised when we slip, fall, believe the lie, purposely lash out, SIN. But I do believe He is disappointed when we don't seek restoration and forgiveness from our wrongs. The Father has provided for EVERY situation and continues to provide how we can restore the gift we received when we made Jesus our Lord - we receive relationship.

Do we really want the Lord to 'create' a new heart in us?  How about 'renewing' a right and steadfast spirit within me? Are we willing to pay the price for this to occur. For that matter, are we willing to pay the price if we don't? Is relationship important to us? 

Are we a willing spirit? We have free will, we were born with it just like the sin nature. I sometimes think that we have free will because the Father wanted us to make our decision, our choices freely - not coerced or tricked or misled. He wanted us to want Him, to choose Him freely. The devil, on the other hand only uses deceit and trickery remember the scripture that defines this: 

   "Be sober [well balanced and self-disciplined], be alert and cautious at all times. That enemy of yours, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion [fiercely hungry], seeking someone to devour. But resist him, be firm in your faith [against his attack—rooted, established, immovable], knowing that the same experiences of suffering are being experienced by your brothers and sisters throughout the world. [You do not suffer alone.]" [1 Peter 5: 7-8]

Why anyone would ever follow someone/something that there only object was to place you in harm defies understanding... yet there are those that do. Our choice is to follow such as that or follow the one that says:

   "I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance [to the full, till it overflows]. I am the Good Shepherd. The Good Shepherd lays down His [own] life for the sheep." [John 10:10b-11]

No wonder that the Psalmist wrote, "Create in me a clean heart..." We can't do it alone nor do we have to because we have one that walks with us who is more than able.

Balance people... Balance.

I've used the title - But what about meeee? - before, and though this isn't the title of this post... it really will seem like I'm just using different words for the same message. Perhaps, but I believe that sometimes a title/focus has more than one application. 

Regardless, what about you? First... does everything in your life HAVE to be about you? And when you find out what it's all about you... what are you going to do with that information? Primarily - why? Why? Why do you need to be the center of attention - especially when the 'issue' is outside of you, in areas that you've not become a part? A case of sidelines coaching (typically without all the information)?

The other part of that title is: 'What's in it for me?' Many people don't want to be involved with (fill in the blank) unless they get something from their involvement. As a Christian, where are you on this continuum of 'what about me' and selflessness? That question, in case you wondered - IS important.

When I talk about 'balance', this post reflects this dichotomy we sometimes find ourselves facing. Balance doesn't mean to be mindless of yourself. You need to see you as the Lord sees you... not as man sees, or even yourself. But if you never see a 'bigger' view of you, from the Lord's standpoint - what do you see? Where are you heading? What are you learning? Who are you, precisely, do you see you as the Lord does? What do you do, precisely, that brings honor and glory to Him? Do you know?

Simple example: Matthew 8: 19-22

   "Then [on His way to board the boat] a scribe [who was a respected and authoritative interpreter of the Law] came and said to Him, 'Master, I will accompany You [as Your student] wherever You go.' Jesus replied to him, 'Foxes have holes and the birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay His head.' Another of the disciples said to Him, 'Lord, let me first go and bury my father (collect my inheritance).' But Jesus said to him, 'Follow Me [believing in Me as Master and Teacher], and allow the [spiritually] dead to bury their own dead.'” 

We sometimes misunderstand what scripture is saying. It wasn't until I read this passage in the Amplified version that I saw a different teaching, a different perspective which made all the difference. (It's the underlining that begins to provide a different perspective.)

When I talk about 'balance', I'm speaking to this apparent oxymoron or opposing understanding of an issue. When you find a scripture that appears to be at odds with other teachings - since scripture confirms itself, it never is contrary or opposite to other scriptures - stop and reassess. Read the 'opposing' scriptures in various versions to get a fuller understanding.

Too often it is the first scripture we've read that appears contrary to what is being read now. Always remember they aren't different... now becomes the time of discovery of what actually is being said/taught. Also, if it is someone that is quoting the differing scripture - don't attack them, jointly discover the truth. It really isn't being hidden.

Do you seek balance in your life? Do you experience balance? Is it important? I would add the caveat that balance is never compromise. Compromise will only hurt you in the end because too often it's a form of deception and confusion.

The Power of Listening

to yourself? Do you? Are you surprised by what you hear? Do you believe what you are saying? Those are only the obvious questions that spring to mind when you think about, focus on what it is YOU hear from what you say. Not a new thought and maybe not as important as I think it is or as unimportant as you might practice.

I know I've caught myself saying to myself - did I really say that!?! But did the listener(s) hear what I meant? The answer to this last question is probably a big - not. Part of the problem is we use words expecting the listener to understand our definition regardless of how it may be understood. I've watched others in a heated discussion (argument) and realizing that what's being discussed is really the same thing just using different words but no one is stopping long enough to listen to both themselves and the other person.

Another side to this is not realizing, even when understood, that the other person could be deeply hurt by the words when that wasn't the intent. Especially in heated 'discussions' we need to take the time to listen to ourselves, to the other person (s) and to how the words may affect them and your relationship. Even we who think we are good listeners may not spend any time listening to ourselves.

   "He who answers before he hears [the facts]— It is folly and shame to him." [Proverbs 18:13]

And Proverbs 18:2 says: 

   "A [closed-minded] fool does not delight in understanding, But only in revealing his personal opinions [unwittingly displaying his self-indulgence and his stupidity]."

If ever there was the suggestion that we stop before responding these 2 verses give us 2 different but supporting reasons. I would suggest that the stopping gives us a moment to reflect on what we actually heard. It may be a difference in definitions... it may be precisely what we heard but the point is - have we heard what was said (whether that was us speaking or the other person). It is also a time to verify - to ask a question to determine if we have in fact heard what was said (we or the other's words). 

We can take as our guide Proverbs 4:23 because this is the foundation for all our words. Will we see the power of listening - to ourselves as well as the other person? Will we understand the basis for our communication? 

   "Watch over your heart with all diligence, For from it flow the springs of life."

Never let your words flow from haste, from assumptions and this begins in our listening.

Thy will be done...

Do we really mean that? Are we really asking that the Lord's will be done? This question is asked to Christians, especially praying Christians. Regardless of the need in the prayer... do we ask that His will be done? Or do we mean ours?

Actually, I was brought up a bit short today when I realize that the need I was praying about, I really had my preferred response in mind. Don't get me wrong - there's nothing 'wrong' about having a preference and asking for what you really want. 

   " Therefore let us [with privilege] approach the throne of grace [that is, the throne of God’s gracious favor] with confidence and without fear, so that we may receive mercy [for our failures] and find [His amazing] grace to help in time of need [an appropriate blessing, coming just at the right moment]." [Hebrews 4:16]

Let's look at what the Father has invited us into... we have privilege! Did you ever consider that when we come it's because Jesus provided our way to come. We certainly didn't earn it or deserve it - we come because Jesus and the Father provided the opportunity. Then it tells us that we should come confident and without fear! Why? So that WE may find mercy and grace in our need(s). 

Now remember what James taught:

   "You ask [God for something] and do not receive it, because you ask [c]with wrong motives [out of selfishness or with an unrighteous agenda], so that [when you get what you want] you may spend it on your [hedonistic] desires." [James 4:2-3]

Do you look at your motives? Granted this is for one's personal wants. But when you are interceding for the need of someone else... do you know your why, your motives? More to the point - do you ask 'Thy will be done'? 

   "This is the [remarkable degree of] confidence which we [as believers are entitled to] have before Him: that if we ask anything according to His will, [that is, consistent with His plan and purpose] He hears us. And if we know [for a fact, as indeed we do] that He hears and listens to us in whatever we ask, we [also] know [with settled and absolute knowledge] that we have [granted to us] the requests which we have asked from Him." [1 John 5:14-15]

It takes our faith and trust to pray, ask in this way. Perhaps, we should be praying more for His will to be manifested in the situation/need? And this does not mean that we shouldn't lift the need up to Him nor stop interceding. This is simply a different view, perspective leading to a different foundation for how we pray, how we intercede. The Lord's answer may not be what we want or expect but it really isn't according to our will. We can ask, and keep asking but as pray-ers, we come alongside the person in need and seek.

Will we ask that His will be done...?

Writer musings

Every once in awhile I tend to stop and assess. The focus of this particular assessment is the Blog's activity. 

Most all of my writing has take place in the context of this blog. Books were birthed here, other devotional opportunities were birthed here, etc. At this point I'm moving toward 2000 separate posts - I'm actually at 1991. That's a lot of posts. Yes, sometimes the topic was written about more than once. That's because my understanding grew or I discovered a different perspective or my focus was slightly different. 

I really do love to write. I tend to think that I'm not the writer, the Lord just invited me into this fantastic journey and has allowed me to put into my words a message for all. I like that. Probably this is based in my all consuming desire to make a difference, to provide ways for people to grow as Christians regardless of the path they're on - as long as they want to grow into the person the Lord's always seen.

Initially I had post daily... when that got a bit much, I switched to every other day... when that also got to be a bit much, I switched to every 3rd day... which is how it has continued - until today. From now on I will write and post a post when I have something to say that I need to share. And I should warn you... I'm a devotee to discovering. And then comes the fun to see how it can be incorporated into my mindset, my personal person. 

Knowledge apart from application is just knowledge. And yes, knowledge is the foundation to wisdom. But wisdom comes from applying. At least that's my frame of reference. Trust me, I've got a lot of miscellaneous pieces of 'knowledge' floating around my head ... I'm beginning to think that's a given. I do tend to try and see if it (the new 'knowledge') 'fits', improves, expands, or contradicts my current standard.

The point in all this is - 'regular' has ceased to be the primary motivator in my blog posting. I just hope that challenge, pondering, interacting with what is written isn't jeopardized. I did feel you needed to be apprised of this latest change in 'publication'. Also... recognize that I enjoy dialogue (iron sharpening iron) and welcome your thoughts, agreements, disagreements, discoveries too.

Come... let us dialogue and discover...... and apply.

Blessings

A Solitary Life

We do live in a time that we seem to be separated from each other. When I was in college the word that was used was 'anomie'. Familiar with it?

   "In sociology, anomie or anomy (/ˈænəmi/) is a social condition defined by an uprooting or breakdown of any moral values, standards or guidance for individuals to follow. Anomie is believed to possibly evolve from conflict of belief systems and causes breakdown of social bonds between an individual and the community (both economic and primary socialization). The term, commonly understood to mean normlessness, is believed to have been popularized by French sociologist Émile Durkheim..."

Has this term been re-released in some way? Or has it always been hovering around the edges of society? Do we live solitary lives? ... even in our families? Do we want to? Simple example: have you ever dined out and as you walked to your table, you saw more people engaged with their phones than with the people they were sitting with? If it is true that we live solitary lives... is this bad? 

The answer to that question is a resounding - YES! Having time that is just you, is not a solitary life. We all need those times of taking the time to be 'alone' with the Lord. It's the hermit style of lifestyle that is 'wrong'. 

   "Now the Lord God said, “It is not good (beneficial) for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper [one who balances him—a counterpart who is] suitable and complementary for him."  [Genesis 2:18]

And yet we see countless examples of people isolating themselves. 

   "“So come out from among unbelievers and be separate,” says the Lord,

“And do not touch what is unclean; And I will graciously receive you and welcome you [with favor]," [2 Corinthians 6:17]

But I think their application of this verse is in error. We are NOT of this world, but we ARE in it. What and how is our role in being about our Father's business? If we never are in relationship or never interact with others, then how can we bring our brothers and sisters to the Lord to be saved? Isn't our 'separate-ness' in our faith, how we relate to others?

How is the Lord leading you? Are you supposed to be in isolation, solitary?

OVERdesire

Is that actually a word? You have to admit that it is descriptive... So, do you? Actually, do you understand what this means? In my world it's that last step before full blown coveting. This is supposedly a 'lesser' sin.
(rabbit trail: can sins be considered in stages - are there really lesser sins? Perhaps of lesser strength or impact on the aggressor and/or agressee but are there any unimportant sins? Isn't a sin... a sin?)

Perhaps this is related to:

   "Do not love the world [of sin that opposes God and His precepts], nor the things that are in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the lust and sensual craving of the flesh and the lust and longing of the eyes and the boastful pride of life [pretentious confidence in one’s resources or in the stability of earthly things]—these do not come from the Father, but are from the world. 17 The world is passing away, and with it its lusts [the shameful pursuits and ungodly longings]; but the one who does the will of God and carries out His purposes lives forever." [1 John 2: 15-17] 

When you look at the sin of coveting - isn't all of that related to those 3 - flesh, eyes, life? And now look at the behavior that is often associated with following those desires. When someone covets (over desires) how do they react - are they consumed by their own desires? Sometimes. But it's the behavior that is also at issue - time is wasted by thinking on it. But it can also lead to  worse behavior.  You know if you are 'over desiring' or not and what it leads to. Do you want this for yourself? Remember... this is self analysis. You also have the power to change and no longer have wrong desires controlling you. Remember what James says:

   "What leads to [the unending] quarrels and conflicts among you? Do they not come from your [hedonistic] desires that wage war in your [bodily] members [fighting for control over you]? You are jealous and covet [what others have] and [your lust goes unfulfilled; so you murder. You are envious and cannot obtain [the object of your envy]; so you fight and battle. You do not have because you do not ask [it of God]. You ask [God for something] and do not receive it, [hedonistic] desires." [James 2: 1-3]

Reread verse 2. Doesn't this speak to coveting? The reasons, answers to why you don't have what you think you want/need is found in verse 3. Do you honestly know WHY you want what you think you want? Is it a 'keeping up with the Joneses'? Do you pray for those things to the Lord that really aren't needs so you don't receive?

   "And when you pray, do not use meaningless repetition as the Gentiles do, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. So do not be like them [praying as they do]; for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him." [Matthew 8:7-8]

He knows and He is the source of every good gift (James 1:17) but He does expect us to ask (Matthew 7: 7-8) just not ask incorrectly.

 

Near...

 "Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you." — James 4:8

How much plainer can the Father make it clear to us all that He loves us and wants to walk with us? The other side to this is how we answer His call. Do we draw near? Do we keep Him at arms length? Why do we do either?

Bottom line is 'in our court' - what kind of relationship are we seeking to build? Just as in any relationship - it's as you spend time with and get to know the other person you begin to build on what you know. Have you ever stopped a relationship from growing? Or been the recipient of another person's stopping the relationship a kind of line in sand which says this far but no further? When you've been stopped, how does that make you feel? Let me use another analogy... have you ever loved someone but it isn't reciprocated? Or maybe they've stopped spending time with you or whatever happened - there no longer is that closeness that once characterized your relationship.

You can see where I'm going - yes? Do we do this to our Triune God? Have we stopped growing together? But does God really want to be in relationship with His creation? Scripture says:

Revelation 3:20  

   "Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with Me."

Zephaniah 3:17   

   "The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness; He will quiet you by his love; He will exult over you with loud singing."

Matthew 11:28-29  

   "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls."

John 3:16-17  

   “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through Him."

Romans 5:8   

   "But God shows His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us."

And that is only a small smattering of verses that tell of the Lord's desire to be in relationship with us. For me, John 3 and Romans 5 are the strongest statements about what God wants. And yes, it is always our choice. If we only turn to the Lord when we want something or are in crisis what message are we sending to Him? Is it - 'I only want you when I want you'? It certainly sounds like that.

If you only turn to the Lord with your hand out, wanting or needing something, that's a 'user' relationship. Do you really want to say that? You have so much waiting for you when you ask for and seek a deeper relationship... you will be astounded. All you really need do is to - draw near. He is always waiting for us to turn to Him, because of, for just Him.