Unbearable

I think we all face at least one 'unbearable' in our lives. Actually, we probably experience many unbearables. Some of us feel like we have far more than our fair share. And realizing all this helps us get through those times. Because we need to have the mindset that unbearables is something we go through... we don't make it our residence. Unbearables are also very, very individual. We really experience these differently even when the 'cause' is the same.

What is an unbearable? It varies... it can emerge when we experience the loss of someone close, or it may be a different kind of loss - of hope, of being abandon, of betrayal, of...  the universal characteristic(s) is that it is personal and speaks of loss, it is significant, and the pain goes so deep that it takes your breath away. 

In an odd sort of way, it should be confirmation to us of the importance, the value of the focus of our unbearable. We may have 'known' before, but now it is undeniably true. This can become a new guide for us in terms of others who fulfill the same type/degree of importance and value. Never let them not know the depth of your feelings. We humans tend to not do a very good job of letting those we do value know they are valued.

When we seek comfort for our times of unbearable in scripture, Psalms is where I look (AMP):

   "The Lord also will be a refuge and a stronghold for the oppressed,

    A refuge in times of trouble;" (9:9)

   "For He has not despised nor detested the suffering of the afflicted;

    Nor has He hidden His face from him; But when he cried to Him for 

    help, He listened." (22:24)

   "The Lord is near to the heartbroken, And He saves those who are 

    crushed in spirit" (34:18)

   "Cast your burden on the Lord [release it] and He will sustain and 

    uphold you; He will never allow the righteous to be shaken" (55:22)

Throughout the Bible there are scriptures that speak to our times of sorrow and despair to help us through our unbearable. However, it is we who have to choose - not to forget, but to be allow ourselves to be healed. Allowing healing is rarely a simple act, but it is critical in order to live and move on with our lives. I discovered that the pain didn't evaporate, but its hold has. It isn't forgotten, but it doesn't control. And I'll never forget... and I do choose living.