What happens when you do make a mistake? We all do, you know. And the 'mistakes' I'm talking about are the ones that are yours... all yours. Not the ones others may make that affect you and what you do, these are solely yours. What do you do? Even the really 'Big' ones... You still have to 'go on' but what's your 'going on' style? This is not an 'oh gee, sorry' regardless of he size and type of mistake... how do you handle it?
I think one of the salient questions is - do you continue to live with them or do you learn from them and move on? Do you 'rehearse' in your mind, replaying what happened? Not that this accomplishes very much but I suspect we all waste some time in this pursuit. If you live with them... why? Once you've analyze why you did what you did, what's the point of rehashing it? The hardest thing for us to do is to admit we did make a mistake, apologize (if that's required and it typically is), and then leave it. Move on. And forgive yourself.
I'm not suggesting that you excuse your behavior if you did it intentionally and then got caught, but I am suggesting that you admit the truth and focus on your now. If you end up losing something as a result of your actions or words then that's the reality of what you sowed. You always reap what you sow but you don't have to wallow, you don't have to continue in that state. Others may not forgive you and that too is part of the reaping. These are some of the hard issues you deal with when you live with your mistakes.
Forgiveness is hard and sometimes seems impossible when it is our own selves that are in need of forgiveness. We have to forgive in order to move on. Whether we are forgiving others or forgiving ourselves. Without forgiveness I don't believe that we grow and improve and change and continue. It is critical that we continue and that's how we live with our mistakes. You don't necessarily forget but you do forgive and then you can move on.
... do you forgive?
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