Our assumptions

  Gets us in a whole lot of trouble sometimes... yes? Yes. Our assumptions are really only best 'guesses' about how whoever will react to whatever. Many times we are spot on, but there are other times that we are totally surprised... even by ourselves and our reactions. The 'I certainly didn't expect that!' reaction. Why do we do react based on our assumptions especially if we don't seemed to be very good in doing this?

  The answer to that seemingly simple question is - because we have to order our world in some fashion and the reactions (predicting) of others is part of the ordering, whether or not they respond as predicted. Part of the problem arises when our we base our assumptions on dated information. People rarely remain static and we need to make provision for growth and change. Face it, we would demand this (growth, change) for ourselves so we need to be sensitive to this reality in and for others.

  Blithely and blindly assuming a status quo when there really is no supporting evidence will only move us into a yesterday state. Personally, that's not a place I wish to be, regardless of how pleasant and wonderful it was. Today holds so many opportunities to continue to learn and experiment and have adventures that I attempt to use the learnings from yesterday rather than recreate what happened then.

  We need assumptions ... as a starting point. It really isn't logical to recreate or reinvent, but to use what was to recognize and interact with what is now. The old saying that "when we assume we make an a** out of u and me" is true, but it doesn't say that we should ignore our assumptions. It's the presumption and acting on this that shouldn't occur. We should always begin at the last point in the situation or interactions but then to discover what it is and who it is that now is. Another new adventure to discover!