Gets us in a whole lot of trouble sometimes... yes? Yes. Our assumptions are really only best 'guesses' about how whoever will react to whatever. Many times we are spot on, but there are other times that we are totally surprised... even by ourselves and our reactions. The 'I certainly didn't expect that!' reaction. Why do we do react based on our assumptions especially if we don't seemed to be very good in doing this?
The answer to that seemingly simple question is - because we have to order our world in some fashion and the reactions (predicting) of others is part of the ordering, whether or not they respond as predicted. Part of the problem arises when our we base our assumptions on dated information. People rarely remain static and we need to make provision for growth and change. Face it, we would demand this (growth, change) for ourselves so we need to be sensitive to this reality in and for others.
Blithely and blindly assuming a status quo when there really is no supporting evidence will only move us into a yesterday state. Personally, that's not a place I wish to be, regardless of how pleasant and wonderful it was. Today holds so many opportunities to continue to learn and experiment and have adventures that I attempt to use the learnings from yesterday rather than recreate what happened then.
We need assumptions ... as a starting point. It really isn't logical to recreate or reinvent, but to use what was to recognize and interact with what is now. The old saying that "when we assume we make an a** out of u and me" is true, but it doesn't say that we should ignore our assumptions. It's the presumption and acting on this that shouldn't occur. We should always begin at the last point in the situation or interactions but then to discover what it is and who it is that now is. Another new adventure to discover!
Saturday, July 30, 2016
Wednesday, July 27, 2016
Trumping - can't
For every 'can't' utter by you (or anyone else to you about you), when the Lord hears this about you... what do you hear? If He says you can, then regardless of circumstances - you really can. The world's (including your own) is always trumped by His - You can! What do I mean by that? Don't settle for less than your Best You. You can be and do all that He's designed for you. It's then up to you to Always bring your A game.
Is it an issue of trust? Do you not trust the Lord to do what He said He would do? What's your experience in trusting Him? Do remember that sometimes you are in a season of preparation or waiting, but He never fails to answer us. Those answers form your basis of your willingness to try, to be a 'can' rather than a 'can't'. Rely on what God's saying - trust, take the steps that you know are from the Lord, in His time and order. The Lord never ask us to do what we are incapable of doing. And He always equip us to do that which He is asking us to do. Then you will see your can't's turned into can's.
Why am I so certain? I could point to my life and see all His can's that have guided me... when I let Him. Remember that He said that He had come so that we could have life, and life abundantly (John 10:10). He also tells us that apart from Him we can do nothing (John 15:5) but as we abide in Him we can do all that is designed for us - and we can be more than conquerors (Romans 8:37).
Perhaps the question is: what are you trusting God for? What do you see God doing in your life. And if you say He's not then you're not hearing or seeing because you are so important that He knows the number of hairs on your head (Matthew 10:30, Luke 12:7). He loves us, He has done everything He could to restore us to Him (John 3:16-17) - and He left the decision of acting on this or not to us! Remember though, He doesn't leave us alone - He has provided another Helper to be with us (John 14:16-17).
Looking at our lives, we can be a 'can' and confidently be all we can be and do all we are intended to do. Bravado or demanding is not part of the definition of confident. Can't's don't need to trump us when we have the Lord's 'can' doing the trumping.
Is it an issue of trust? Do you not trust the Lord to do what He said He would do? What's your experience in trusting Him? Do remember that sometimes you are in a season of preparation or waiting, but He never fails to answer us. Those answers form your basis of your willingness to try, to be a 'can' rather than a 'can't'. Rely on what God's saying - trust, take the steps that you know are from the Lord, in His time and order. The Lord never ask us to do what we are incapable of doing. And He always equip us to do that which He is asking us to do. Then you will see your can't's turned into can's.
Why am I so certain? I could point to my life and see all His can's that have guided me... when I let Him. Remember that He said that He had come so that we could have life, and life abundantly (John 10:10). He also tells us that apart from Him we can do nothing (John 15:5) but as we abide in Him we can do all that is designed for us - and we can be more than conquerors (Romans 8:37).
Perhaps the question is: what are you trusting God for? What do you see God doing in your life. And if you say He's not then you're not hearing or seeing because you are so important that He knows the number of hairs on your head (Matthew 10:30, Luke 12:7). He loves us, He has done everything He could to restore us to Him (John 3:16-17) - and He left the decision of acting on this or not to us! Remember though, He doesn't leave us alone - He has provided another Helper to be with us (John 14:16-17).
Looking at our lives, we can be a 'can' and confidently be all we can be and do all we are intended to do. Bravado or demanding is not part of the definition of confident. Can't's don't need to trump us when we have the Lord's 'can' doing the trumping.
Sunday, July 24, 2016
I wished I'd said that...
Sound familiar? Have you ever been in the position of knowing precisely what you'd say - but the time has passed, you've not said that stunning remark at the appropriate moment. If only... Well, the time has passed and you can't go running after whoever and make your comment so what do you do? No one can have a grab bag of comments that they can pull out at the time of a 'necessary'(?) retort. But, just maybe... this is not such a bad thing after all.
Was your cutting comment or stunning remark something that you'd be sorry that you said later? Was it really appropriate? Would it have accomplished anything that you'd be proud of later or would cause the other person to rethink their initial comment? I remember a moment in the old movie, "You've Got Mail" in which the female lead did finally make the comment she'd always wanted to say in response. The result, she deeply hurt the other person and she was aware of this reaction. Sadly, the target wasn't deserving of the piercing. Now what?
I've discovered that many times my barb would have caused hurt or sadness in the target but they didn't even know that they had (first) hurt me - it really wasn't deliberate. Actually, I'm not sure that 'deserving' has anything to do with anything. Behavior should represent the person and bad behavior, no matter if it feels like it's justified, should never be a response. It really isn't justified if it isn't who you want you to be.
If your nature is not to say those things that later you think you'd like to have said... then consider yourself blessed. For one thing, you don't need to seek forgiveness from the Lord and the person if you never say 'it'. For another thing, to repeat me, if it isn't the essential you then the response is totally out of character. Do you want to be a person that acts and speaks totally out of character? If you do, then you can become that type. Not sure it's worth the time and energy to become one who always has a rejoinder. Might not really be as much 'fun' as you think.
Never be a 'wish I'd said that' person. Remember the scriptural comment that we should let our yes be yes and our no, no (Matthew 5:37). Our essential 'us' should be our focus and let other's bad behavior, purposeful or not, receive the ignoring it deserves. Besides... do you really gain anything from saying a hurtful thing in a timely manner?
Was your cutting comment or stunning remark something that you'd be sorry that you said later? Was it really appropriate? Would it have accomplished anything that you'd be proud of later or would cause the other person to rethink their initial comment? I remember a moment in the old movie, "You've Got Mail" in which the female lead did finally make the comment she'd always wanted to say in response. The result, she deeply hurt the other person and she was aware of this reaction. Sadly, the target wasn't deserving of the piercing. Now what?
I've discovered that many times my barb would have caused hurt or sadness in the target but they didn't even know that they had (first) hurt me - it really wasn't deliberate. Actually, I'm not sure that 'deserving' has anything to do with anything. Behavior should represent the person and bad behavior, no matter if it feels like it's justified, should never be a response. It really isn't justified if it isn't who you want you to be.
If your nature is not to say those things that later you think you'd like to have said... then consider yourself blessed. For one thing, you don't need to seek forgiveness from the Lord and the person if you never say 'it'. For another thing, to repeat me, if it isn't the essential you then the response is totally out of character. Do you want to be a person that acts and speaks totally out of character? If you do, then you can become that type. Not sure it's worth the time and energy to become one who always has a rejoinder. Might not really be as much 'fun' as you think.
Never be a 'wish I'd said that' person. Remember the scriptural comment that we should let our yes be yes and our no, no (Matthew 5:37). Our essential 'us' should be our focus and let other's bad behavior, purposeful or not, receive the ignoring it deserves. Besides... do you really gain anything from saying a hurtful thing in a timely manner?
Thursday, July 21, 2016
Reflecting...
As I was perusing the entries in my upcoming next book I saw that with this book, the majority of the entries came from my blog writing... at least the initial idea/concept. I always 'tweaked' the post for the book but it was this realization that caught my attention. How often do we 'try out' something in a place that allows experimentation and safety? Actually both components are necessary. One should never attempt something without a view of eventual 'tweaking' and safety... or at least I think it is foolhardy not to do so.
Perhaps 'try out' is the appropriate title for this post, but reflection is what caused the realization. So, instead of emphasizing 'try out', I'd like to look at the 'act' of reflecting. What is this for you? What might it accomplish if utilized more often? What is it??? According to Webster, reflection has an 'interesting' definition:
"something that shows the effect, existence, or character
of something else... something that causes people to
disapprove of a person or thing...
It wasn't until the 6th and 7th definition that more closely describes what I meant as the action:
"a thought, idea, or opinion formed or a remark made as a
result of meditation."
Mirror was the context for the initial definitions, but it is the world of the mind I wanted to emphasize.
Reflecting, reflection can cause a new way at looking at (fill in the blank) or a different way of action. But, mere thought isn't sufficient in my world of definitions, it has to be translated into behavior in order to validate the 'new'. Reflecting may begin the process but action has to occur to validate or refute. Without the action to know, reflecting is only an untested theory.
Is this discussion just so much word game playing? No... I don't believe it is or I wouldn't have posted it. In my world there is no such 'thing' as an unrelated discovery of you. Anything that enhances your knowledge, appreciation, or understanding of who you are and how you go about expressing you is relevant and important. And this includes those 'things' that you determine have no value to you.
However, I do encourage you to have an experimental and discovery process in your arsenal of aspects and components of you. Obviously, I do recommend that reflecting become a part of who you are. The discoveries and adventures you will encounter will enhance everything you are. This can also reaffirm whatever you are engaged in doing and being. Reflecting allows you the luxury of stepping back for a moment to analyze and confirm. Definitely an activity that I recommend.
Perhaps 'try out' is the appropriate title for this post, but reflection is what caused the realization. So, instead of emphasizing 'try out', I'd like to look at the 'act' of reflecting. What is this for you? What might it accomplish if utilized more often? What is it??? According to Webster, reflection has an 'interesting' definition:
"something that shows the effect, existence, or character
of something else... something that causes people to
disapprove of a person or thing...
It wasn't until the 6th and 7th definition that more closely describes what I meant as the action:
"a thought, idea, or opinion formed or a remark made as a
result of meditation."
Mirror was the context for the initial definitions, but it is the world of the mind I wanted to emphasize.
Reflecting, reflection can cause a new way at looking at (fill in the blank) or a different way of action. But, mere thought isn't sufficient in my world of definitions, it has to be translated into behavior in order to validate the 'new'. Reflecting may begin the process but action has to occur to validate or refute. Without the action to know, reflecting is only an untested theory.
Is this discussion just so much word game playing? No... I don't believe it is or I wouldn't have posted it. In my world there is no such 'thing' as an unrelated discovery of you. Anything that enhances your knowledge, appreciation, or understanding of who you are and how you go about expressing you is relevant and important. And this includes those 'things' that you determine have no value to you.
However, I do encourage you to have an experimental and discovery process in your arsenal of aspects and components of you. Obviously, I do recommend that reflecting become a part of who you are. The discoveries and adventures you will encounter will enhance everything you are. This can also reaffirm whatever you are engaged in doing and being. Reflecting allows you the luxury of stepping back for a moment to analyze and confirm. Definitely an activity that I recommend.
Monday, July 18, 2016
Your 'expect-er'
A sense of wonder - does this describe you? Do you wake with excitement and wonder about what you will do in the day, what you might learn, who you might meet? Do you approach your day, your life with this mindset? If not... why?
A sense of wonder gives a freshness to the day. It heightens your intensity about what might be possible, what you might experience, what you may discover and learn. And all that can occur within the context of the world in which you live. No day can ever be precisely like the previous one. And your attitude makes all the difference.
What a bore it would be to only expect today to replicate yesterday - whether or not what yesterday was and brought was 'good', or not so much. (Gasp... what if it was not good!) Reason? Because if you extend this thinking then a week or month from today would only be a continuous repetition and that would be boring. I always recommend an outlook that expects. Your 'expect-er' is your gauge about how you will even recognize and enjoy the different or unexpected. It's not an intensity that brings stress or concern, but an attitude about how you face your day... and by extension, your awareness.
The best mate, in my world, to a sense of wonder is creativity. I'm completely convinced that we mis-define what creative is, means, and its importance in our lives. Unfortunately, we seem to regard creativity with a slightly jaundiced and distrustful eye. If 'it' is different or unusual or unexpected then the level of trust is low. Or, the opposite reaction occurs, a 'throw the baby out with the bathwater' - a distrust of the 'conventional' simply because its the status quo. Both attitudes are incorrect and misguided.
Expecting, increasing your expect-er level can always be increased with use. If you give people, life the opportunity... sometimes they/it surprises us. But when we use our 'pre-determin-er' we are bound in the status quo because we don't see the creative, the unusual, the out-of-the-box.
A sense of wonder gives a freshness to the day. It heightens your intensity about what might be possible, what you might experience, what you may discover and learn. And all that can occur within the context of the world in which you live. No day can ever be precisely like the previous one. And your attitude makes all the difference.
What a bore it would be to only expect today to replicate yesterday - whether or not what yesterday was and brought was 'good', or not so much. (Gasp... what if it was not good!) Reason? Because if you extend this thinking then a week or month from today would only be a continuous repetition and that would be boring. I always recommend an outlook that expects. Your 'expect-er' is your gauge about how you will even recognize and enjoy the different or unexpected. It's not an intensity that brings stress or concern, but an attitude about how you face your day... and by extension, your awareness.
The best mate, in my world, to a sense of wonder is creativity. I'm completely convinced that we mis-define what creative is, means, and its importance in our lives. Unfortunately, we seem to regard creativity with a slightly jaundiced and distrustful eye. If 'it' is different or unusual or unexpected then the level of trust is low. Or, the opposite reaction occurs, a 'throw the baby out with the bathwater' - a distrust of the 'conventional' simply because its the status quo. Both attitudes are incorrect and misguided.
Expecting, increasing your expect-er level can always be increased with use. If you give people, life the opportunity... sometimes they/it surprises us. But when we use our 'pre-determin-er' we are bound in the status quo because we don't see the creative, the unusual, the out-of-the-box.
Friday, July 15, 2016
Unequivocal
Webster's definition is: "very strong and clear: not showing or allowing any doubt." No question. No doubt. The synonyms Webster uses to describe this word are equally strong: straightforward, unambiguous, unmistakable, clear; and means - unequivocal. I think the point is made. God and His Word are unequivocal.
And... that's what standing on God's word is. Our strength should be confidence that whatever is needed will be manifested at the precise time and in a manner that is undeniable that it comes from His hand.
"For there are three that bear witness in heaven: the Father, the
Word, and the Holy Spirit, and these three are one. And there are
three that bear witness on earth: the Spirit, the water, and the
blood, and these three agree as one." (1 John 5:7-8)
Numbers 23:19 states:
"God is not a man, that He should lie, Nor the son of man, that
He should repent. Has He said, and will He not do? Or has He
spoken, and will He not make it good?"
1 King 8:56
"...There has not failed one word of all His good promise, which
promised..."
Isaiah 59:1 (also Numbers 11:23)
"Behold the Lord's hand is not shortened, That it cannot save;
Nor His ear heavy, That it cannot hear."
I could cite other verses, but the point is made. If God said it... If He promises 'it', then it is and 'is'. Because if He said it... He will do it! Period. End of sentence. However, when, where, and how it is manifested is not ours to determine. We don't tell God the particulars...
Personally, I like that strength because it gives me a foundation I can trust, on which I can stand. When you look at your life, especially those times of trials, temptations, and tribulations you can see the work of the Lord in your life. When you are on the 'other side' of your trials, etal then you can look back and see what's happened and, perhaps, why. I've always liked the poem,"Footprints in the Sands" by Mary Stevenson because it sums up what is...
What a beautiful promise.
And... that's what standing on God's word is. Our strength should be confidence that whatever is needed will be manifested at the precise time and in a manner that is undeniable that it comes from His hand.
"For there are three that bear witness in heaven: the Father, the
Word, and the Holy Spirit, and these three are one. And there are
three that bear witness on earth: the Spirit, the water, and the
blood, and these three agree as one." (1 John 5:7-8)
Numbers 23:19 states:
"God is not a man, that He should lie, Nor the son of man, that
He should repent. Has He said, and will He not do? Or has He
spoken, and will He not make it good?"
1 King 8:56
"...There has not failed one word of all His good promise, which
promised..."
Isaiah 59:1 (also Numbers 11:23)
"Behold the Lord's hand is not shortened, That it cannot save;
Nor His ear heavy, That it cannot hear."
I could cite other verses, but the point is made. If God said it... If He promises 'it', then it is and 'is'. Because if He said it... He will do it! Period. End of sentence. However, when, where, and how it is manifested is not ours to determine. We don't tell God the particulars...
Personally, I like that strength because it gives me a foundation I can trust, on which I can stand. When you look at your life, especially those times of trials, temptations, and tribulations you can see the work of the Lord in your life. When you are on the 'other side' of your trials, etal then you can look back and see what's happened and, perhaps, why. I've always liked the poem,"Footprints in the Sands" by Mary Stevenson because it sums up what is...
One night I dreamed a dream.
As I was walking along the beach with my Lord.
Across the dark sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene, I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand,
One belonging to me and one to my Lord.
After the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that at many times along the path of my life,
especially at the very lowest and saddest times,
there was only one set of footprints.
This really troubled me, so I asked the Lord about it.
"Lord, you said once I decided to follow you,
You'd walk with me all the way.
But I noticed that during the saddest and most troublesome times of my life,
there was only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why, when I needed You the most, You would leave me."
He whispered, "My precious child, I love you and will never leave you
Never, ever, during your trials and testings.
When you saw only one set of footprints,
It was then that I carried you."
Tuesday, July 12, 2016
Live long and prosper
Believe this for yourself? Are you 'worth' it? Spock wasn't the first one to use this phrase. Remember the words of Jesus in John: He begins in 10:7 by describing Himself as the Good Shepherd and telling us that He is the door and those who enter by Him will be saved. Next He contrast this to what the devil does and ends verse 10:
"I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it
more abundantly."
The 'they' is us. He came that WE might have life more abundantly!This is a statement that tells us that we can live long and prosper. However, we do need a definition. Prosper? Abundance? Terrific words - yes? Not really a question. We all begin to smile when we experience them. But... what are they? Is this only financial or material? Do we recognize it when we 'have' it? And when we do ' have it', what do we Do with it? How do you define - prosper, abundance?
A different question is: is 'abundant' internal or external... or both? Perhaps it's in the eye of the person? I would suggest that it is even more than we imagine. But our focus shouldn't just be on those two words... isn't 'living' the point? The Lord shared an incredible, deep yet simple understanding with me in the early hours of the morning. Being one's best is part of the answer.. How we Be and Do in our day defines, describes - demonstrates our best you/me. And when we our best then we are experiencing abundance.
But on our own or by our own hand we can live abundantly? I don't think so. John 15 gives us an excellent example of what we need to do in order to live the abundant life. "...abide in Me." (v. 4) "...without Me you can do nothing." (v. 5) Alone now that Jesus has gone to be with the Father? No.
"But when the 'Helper' comes, whom I shall send to you from the
Father, the Spirit of truth who proceeds from the Father." (v. 26)
"However, when He, the Spirit of truth has come, He will guide
you into all truth." (16:13)
We were never meant to try to live long and prosper, to live a full and abundant life apart from our relationship with the Triune God. The way, the method to live a life full and fruitful is found in our life with the Lord.
These are only some of the questions, issues in living a long and prosperous life - abundantly. This begins the journey, the adventure in a discovery of who we are, how we go about being us, what's available because we have accepted Jesus as Lord. Joy, Peace, Love, Hope are some of the companions on this path which are more than enough to make me a conqueror and live the life I was given. Living long without the Lord is a state that I would never want or choose.
"I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it
more abundantly."
The 'they' is us. He came that WE might have life more abundantly!This is a statement that tells us that we can live long and prosper. However, we do need a definition. Prosper? Abundance? Terrific words - yes? Not really a question. We all begin to smile when we experience them. But... what are they? Is this only financial or material? Do we recognize it when we 'have' it? And when we do ' have it', what do we Do with it? How do you define - prosper, abundance?
A different question is: is 'abundant' internal or external... or both? Perhaps it's in the eye of the person? I would suggest that it is even more than we imagine. But our focus shouldn't just be on those two words... isn't 'living' the point? The Lord shared an incredible, deep yet simple understanding with me in the early hours of the morning. Being one's best is part of the answer.. How we Be and Do in our day defines, describes - demonstrates our best you/me. And when we our best then we are experiencing abundance.
But on our own or by our own hand we can live abundantly? I don't think so. John 15 gives us an excellent example of what we need to do in order to live the abundant life. "...abide in Me." (v. 4) "...without Me you can do nothing." (v. 5) Alone now that Jesus has gone to be with the Father? No.
"But when the 'Helper' comes, whom I shall send to you from the
Father, the Spirit of truth who proceeds from the Father." (v. 26)
"However, when He, the Spirit of truth has come, He will guide
you into all truth." (16:13)
We were never meant to try to live long and prosper, to live a full and abundant life apart from our relationship with the Triune God. The way, the method to live a life full and fruitful is found in our life with the Lord.
These are only some of the questions, issues in living a long and prosperous life - abundantly. This begins the journey, the adventure in a discovery of who we are, how we go about being us, what's available because we have accepted Jesus as Lord. Joy, Peace, Love, Hope are some of the companions on this path which are more than enough to make me a conqueror and live the life I was given. Living long without the Lord is a state that I would never want or choose.
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